How different and intrusive comes in our lives change...
Change that has it's characteristics, parameters and leads us to involuntary alter the conditions of our lives.
Change has it's ways to temporary cancel hope - for our previous plans to become - and tends to freeze people with the idea of the past. That picture of the past is what gives the illusion of safer, airily times.
In fact, in such moments of significant change in their lives, many retreat to the good memories of the past and ignore the bad things of it. Reaction, serving them as a break from the unknown of the future brought to us by the existence of changing conditions.
The sudden (or gradual) cancellation of hope might disrupt one's mind to the extent that he/she fears most - the unfulfilled expectations.
Some cultures called it "to lose one's illusions" about something or the moment of understanding the way we go through, itself, can be more important than the destination we are headed.
The unfulfilled expectations bring us to the perspective of the nicer, past moments while one totally blurs the view on the uglier past.
In such moment the mind tricks us to consider only the most attractive moments of our past lives 'incerting' much more than nostalgia. The real world of 'right now' starts seeming distant and surreal.
The problem is that such perception on life creates series of reactions which are echoing the initial disruption of one's mind, in a manner which could be best illustrated by the description of the picture of the first ring in the water when an object hits it and the smaller, later rings created by the sole initiation of the first one.
These are the moments in which the ground stabilizes with secondary tremors after the first one...
One appears 'to need' to experience them in order to get back its balance. It changes irrationally the course of one's life the way that one gets stuck out of the present and into the past (or future) and 'forgets' about the simple fact - we live NOW. There is only now.
This situation also tricks people into clinging - to the past - and further disrupting the sense of harmony, peace and "reality" of the present moment, which, only, can free one from the burden of the expectations, attachment and can end the selective and disruptive perspective of one's past.
When 'the grip' on attachment is loose again one can experience the benefits of selflessness and lack of fear.
